What to look for in Beginner’s Bondage Kits

Many couples, whether they are married or simply in a committed relationship of some sort, find themselves in a position where the initial rush of lust and exploration has faded, and while they still find each other attractive and interesting they’re looking for something new to spice up their love lives.

Every couple is different, and finds a different way to achieve this. Some will turn to bondage and other BDSM activities to make things a bit more interesting – but may not know how to proceed, exactly. You can find beginner’s bondage kits online, but how can you tell what ought to be in them if you’ve never done anything like that before? Here’s a quick guide to what should be in any beginner’s kit.

First Things First: Safety

Before we go any further, a few basics. Bondage isn’t about hurting the other person, but people can be hurt if equipment or techniques are used incorrectly. Always have a ‘safe word’ that ends whatever’s happening instantly, without argument or hesitation – and always, always respect that safe word.

Never push your partner to try anything they’re not comfortable with, and never engage in any activity that specifically involves a loss of consciousness or other injury. The goal is to explore new sexual territory and expand your level of intimacy, not necessarily to push physical limits and leave scars.

Beginner’s Bondage Kits

That said, here’s what to look for in beginner’s bondage Kits:

•             Blindfold: One of the key elements of any bondage kits is the ability to blindfold the partner. The sense of lack of control that being blind heightens the other senses and increases the feeling of danger.

•             Wrist and Ankle Cuffs: Restraining your partner should involve comfortable, padded wrist and ankle cuffs that are adjustable and strong enough to prevent any snapping.

•             Tethers: Your cuffs will need tethers to be attached to things like bed posts or other anchors. These should be strong and high-quality to prevent unexpected snapping, which can lead to injury for either partner.

That’s all you need to get started. Don’t be impatient to become more advanced – start slow with these basics and see where they take you. When you’re ready for something more advanced, you will know it. Kits such as the one described here can usually be purchased for about $50 - $100.

A Guide to Sydney Anal Sex and Brothels

Sydney is one of the most popular destinations for sexual adventurers because of the number of legally operating brothels and the health and other standards they enforce. While Sydney and Australia in general do not have the free-wheeling (and somewhat alarming) reputation of Bangkok when it comes to sex tourism, the fact that a regulated business can be visited without fear of arrest or attack is very attractive.

Many men visiting Sydney’s brothels are seeking something they do not have easy access to in their regular lives, most commonly anal sex, whether it’s something they have heard of and wish to try or something they’ve grown to love and simply have trouble finding willing partners for. However, despite the presence of legal brothels and prostitutes, Sydney anal sex is not always so easy to attain.

Brothels in Sydney

The obvious stop for men seeking Sydney anal sex is a brothel. Not only are these establishments run like businesses (meaning they have a focus on customer service) but they also maintain relatively high standards for health, appearance, and cleanliness.

Upon arrival at a brothel, typically the customer will be introduced to the women who are available for that day. Upon making his choice, he will make payment for the time period he wishes (generally ranging from half an hour to an hour; longer engagements can usually be negotiated). The customer is then usually required to take a shower and allow a brief physical inspection for overt signs of venereal disease.

Limitations of Brothels

All sex in Sydney brothels, including Sydney anal sex, will require the client to wear a condom. If the client is seeking sex without a condom, they will generally have to pursue an engagement outside of a brothel, which is risky in many ways.

Sydney anal sex is up to the individual girl, and must be individually negotiated. Experienced clients of brothels peg the acceptance rate at about 10%, so the client would be advised to establish willingness as quickly as possible, over the phone if they can. It is almost impossible to arrange anal sex without the use of a condom in any established brothel – and of course would not be advisable in any event.

The key to enjoying the brothel system in Sydney is research and managing expectations. It’s certainly not a ‘no hold barred’ experience at all.

Getting the Most Out of Your Adult Lingerie

Lingerie is often confusing. It’s expensive, and takes a long time to get on properly, but is usually torn off within moments. Men always seem to like it, but they are often downright tongue-tied when it comes to explaining why, or what aspects they enjoy.

Lingerie isn’t about objectification or role-playing, it’s about controlling your own experience and heightening the enjoyment of all the senses – because adult lingerie affects all the senses, from touch to sight to smell and even hearing (the sound of stockings rubbing together can be one of the most erotic in the world). Here’s a quick guide to getting the most out of lingerie in your bedroom.

Tip One: Wear Adult Lingerie Often

One of the biggest mistakes women make is wearing lingerie only on ‘special occasions’ such as their anniversary or when they feel like the bedroom needs a spark. This makes the lingerie feel awkward and uncomfortable to them. Instead, wear lingerie often – wear it under your clothes to work, when you head out to the block party, when you’re just lying around. This will make you feel comfortable and natural in your adult lingerie and might just spark a few more bedroom sessions with your partner!

Tip Two: Find Your Comfort Level

When people think of adult lingerie they often conjure up the typical old-school image of corsets and stockings and garters, which are complex to put on, difficult to wear underneath clothing, and often not the most comfortable. While they can certainly make an impact on a partner, there are other more practical options. Experiment and find where your comfort level is, and don’t be ashamed to stay in that zone.

Tip Three: Don’t Rush

One of the biggest crimes against lingerie is being in a rush to take it off. Many women feel self-conscious in lingerie and are eager to have to removed, and some just want to move on to the main event. But for many men (and women) part of the thrill is the feel and look of lingerie, and one secret is to make a game of keeping it on for as long as possible.

You know what that means, ladies: Extending foreplay. We doubt we have to make any further arguments.

Following these simple tips can graduate you to expert in lingerie in no time – an honorary degree, sadly.

Buy Vibrators Online: The Ultimate Guide

We’re living in a very sexy age, in many ways. With the Internet in full swing, we have access to more information, videos, and photos than any previous generation – and sexual acts and devices that remained great mysteries for most people in the past are not easily discovered, acquired, and used by an increasingly enthusiastic public. And why not? We’re sexual beings, and if our bodies are wired for pleasure we might as well make use of them.

On the other hand, the fact that there is a market means that the efficiencies of scale are brought to bear, and the world is suddenly flooded with a billion cheap vibrators. Randomly selecting one from a randomly selected website may not be the best way to ensure a pleasurable experience. Here are a few things to consider when choosing to buy vibrators online.

One: Materials

Let’s get real: Vibrators are used in close proximity to some of your most complex plumbing, and are often actually inserted inside you. Put simply, it matters what they’re made of.

The ‘sex toy’ or sexual aid industry isn’t regulated in any way, so as long as the materials aren’t illegal there’s nothing stopping a company from using rubbers, silicones, or other materials that can cause health problems or other situations. Look for phrases like ‘100% skin-safe,’ ‘medical-grade,’ or ‘phthalates free’ when seeking to buy vibrators online.

Two: Purpose

Not to put too fine a head on it: Different vibrators are ideally suited for different spots. Some are designed to stimulate the clitoris, some the G-spot, some both. Some are designed specifically for anal use. Some are exterior-use only, while others can be quite intimidating when you realise they’re designed to go inside.

There’s no right or wrong here, but know what you’re looking to stimulate, and have an idea of your comfort zone, before making any purchase decisions.

Three: Size

No, we’re not talking about size in that aspect (although you can find a full range of, er, girth on the Internet when you choose to buy vibrators online). We mean travel-size versus bedroom-size. Many vibrators today are designed to slip into a pocket or a purse and go with you everywhere so you can have a mental-health break anytime, anywhere, but often the ones that have all the bells and whistles that make us see and hear bells and whistles are larger and less travel-friendly. Size sometimes matters, so have a plan before you shop.

Vibrators have reached a high point in terms of design and reliability – but you have to be cautious when buying anything online these days. Shop smart!

Lingerie and its Role in Sexism Getting Second Look

A new lingerie line named after tech pioneer Ada Lovelace and aimed at today’s modern tech-savvy woman has once again raised the issue of lingerie as a tool of oppression versus lingerie as a tool of expression.

The Ada Line of underthings from brand Dear Kate is not the frilly, lacy cabaret-style lingerie most people think of when asked to consider underwear and sexism, but its advertisements featuring real-life female tech workers in their underwear has sparked a new conversation about the role of underwear in modern-day sexism.

Still a Problem

That we still have a sexism problem in the world is evident from the recent celebrity hack incident known on the Internet as ‘The Fappening’ (taken from the charming slang term for masturbation, fap). The male attitude that female celebrities owe them pictures of themselves naked or in lingerie and the fact that even highly-paid and talented women such as Jennifer Lawrence or Ariana Grande apparently feel the need to pose for and send naked photos of themselves to their (presumably) male partners combined with the vitriol unleashed by men on the Internet when the photos were taken down or at any suggestion that their behaviour was in any way wrong shows how deeply misogyny runs in the modern world.

And lingerie, it could be argued, perpetuates the idea of women as objects – in this case, as sexual dolls that exist purely for the visual and physical enjoyment of men.

Just Underwear

On the other hand, as Dear Kate points out in its response to the Ada lingerie backlash, everyone wears underwear. The word lingerie literally means underwear. And no one should be judged on what they wear under their clothes or in the privacy of their bedrooms with their adult partners.

Of course, it’s entirely possible that the backlash wouldn’t have happened if not for the naming of the new line. Ada Lovelace was the woman who created the first modern algorithm in the 19^th Century, and is widely regarded as the first female computer programmer, working in an age when the concept did not exist. Applying her name to a line of sexy underwear could be viewed as opportunistic and tone deaf by many, especially those who hole Lovelace up as a role model for modern women unsure if the tech world is for them.

The sexism issue will likely not be resolved any time soon. The underwear issue, however, should be laid to rest.